A student couple walks in front of Hart House at U of T.
Credits: QMI Agency/ALEX UROSEVIC
Now that it’s the weekend, I think a sex column is in order. Actually, let’s loosen the ties and squeeze in three:
- On Monday, the University of Toronto Sexual Education Centre hosts an event at a sex club. It’s timed to celebrate the opening of Sexual Awareness Week (I’m sorry, but people at university need to be made aware of sex?).
There’s been much ado about this. “U of T sponsoring an orgy?!” has been the biggest cry. Despite the fact the organizers say that’s not the case. It’s just a safe and casual place to explore sexuality (you can only get naked after 7 p.m. and can’t do it in the hot tub, but every other time and place is game.)
I’ve got one strong argument in favour and two technical points against.
Pro: Do what you want. With who you want. Where you want. What do I care? I’m a libertarian. Consenting adults should be able to do in private whatever they damn well please. Drop the moralizing because I can promise you our debt load will ruin Western civilization long before bacchanalian orgies will.
Cons: But it’s not really private life, is it? Each student pays 25¢ a year to fund this club (the cash adds up). You can opt-out of this fee, but as a former U of T student I can tell you it’s hard enough to even know what your dues are paying for, let alone opt out of them.
More importantly there’s a “social justice activism” undercurrent to it. The organizer is quoted in the Toronto Star saying, “sex positivity is all about co-existing, and not having disagreements about what is morally right or appropriate.”
Uh-oh. It’s all about inclusion and diversity and all those buzzwords, isn’t it? I can imagine showing up at the event and being forced to get it on with a one-armed refugee crossdresser in the name of inclusivity.
Let’s be honest. University students don’t need any bureaucracy to help them explore their sexuality. They’ve been doing it since dorms were created.
- The trendy urban mag Toronto Life has just released its sex issue. It’s packed with crazy tales and survey results. (Someone did it at the Hockey Hall of Fame? That’s kinda sad.)
Then there’s a story about the polyamorous community — people who are committed to multiple partners. “Polyamorists like Stephane and Samantha want to be accepted by mainstream society in the way gays and lesbians have been accepted.”
What does this mean? It’s not like they’re being persecuted. The editor’s intro suggests, “The dream, I suppose, would be a government form on which you could define your relationship with a choice of boxes: Married/ common law, single or poly.”
Again: Get your kink on, do what you want. But with talk like this, will we have to create a Ministry for Polyamorous Peoples, an amendment to the charter, special tax exemptions?
Geez people, just live your life. Stop trying to paint yourself as a neglected special interest group.
- California teacher Stacie Halas, 32, has lost an appeal to return to work. She was dismissed from her job when it was discovered she had starred in porn films.
A shame. She shot the films before she was a teacher and needed the cash.
Can’t people move on with their lives?
And, let’s face it, with her in the room you can bet the Grade 8 boys would have stellar attendance and participation.